Tips About Your Body
1. Do not waste a second feeling bad about your body. Every woman I know looks back and regrets the untold hours wasted in self-loathing. Hopefully at some point the light bulb goes off and you realize that the externals about how your body looks matter far less than how you feel about your body internally. Think about women like Beyonce, Alicia Keys, and Jennifer Lopez…all of who are considered beautiful and all of whom are not a size 2. They embraced their bodies, believed themselves to be beautiful, and the rest of us joined along. Health, confidence, and a sense of “knowing” your own sensuality are what make women beautiful. In moments that you feel genuinely hot, milk it. Compliment yourself in your head. Add a little extra swing to your strut. You want to make this be your habitual pattern of thought about yourself. If it is, then the vibe you project will have everyone else feeling the same way. And don’t be afraid to feel this way about yourself! Nothing bad will happen to you! I think many women have conflicting thoughts that they are not even aware of. The “I want to be beautiful!” desire is undermined by weird fears of male attention, fellow female rejection, etc. Root out those concerns about all others and work on just feeling fantastic because it simply feels better to feel fantastic! Plus, you ARE incredibly beautiful, so it is really indulgent to fall into the dark, dishonest pit of self-loathing.
2. If you do fall into the pit of blackness, probably right when you need to get ready to go somewhere, stop looking in the mirror! Black magic has fallen into it and it is lying to you! Just grab an outfit that is your old standby and leave the house immediately. Call a friend who is going through a bad break up and listen to her whine. Go play with our dog. Anything to get your mind off of yourself. That horrible place is some vortex of evil and I don’t know a woman alive that doesn’t fall into it from time to time. I am sure it happens to Heidi Klum. If you allow yourself to hang out there a lot, it will damage the vibe. Know that what is going on is a lie, don’t believe the lie, and divert your attention from your image until the cloud of doom passes you by. It will happen less and less as you get older.
3. In the event that people say mean spirited things to you about the way you look, respond with confidence. You don’t have to be mean back. Just if someone mocks, say, your teeth, casually mutter in a tone that makes it clear you are unaffected, “Funny, I have always adored my teeth” and walk away. These people have a six sense about what your insecurities are so they probably won’t target your teeth, making it harder. But that’s what these wounded meanies do. They smell a little fear and poke at it in order to provoke a reaction and feel powerful. If you DID feel bad about you teeth they WOULD choose that. The point is, it has nothing to do with the truth about how you look or what they are picking on and everything to do with the vibe! I mean think about it, don’t you know really big girls who are never teased? They have mastered the vibe. The wounded meanies will disappear by the time you are 25 or sooner. But if you let them, they can do damage that will stay with you for decades and thus affect the vibe! That is why it is crucial you sheer up your vibration and blow them off but good. Let them know energetically that they are uninvited from depositing their cancer into you.
4. Find some people who you like how they dress that have a body type similar to yours. Emulate their choices. If you wear clothes that are flattering, you will feel better about your body and thus help the vibe. I wasted untold dollars on clothes trying to replicate looks that were not suited to my body type. For some reason I always wanted the type of clothes that looked good on girls with no boobs and that wasn’t me. Unfortunately, it does mean that I have never been able to look the way I have most wanted to (Shane from the L Word?). But better to be in reality about what my body is like and dress in a way that works than to try and mold myself to an image that isn’t really possible.
5. Women tend to focus in on an aspect of their appearance that they hate. The current incarnation of that for me is my emerging neck wrinkles. However, no one is ever noticing the thing you are thinking about, least of all boys. They are looking at your boobs. It wouldn’t matter if you were flat chested, they would still be looking at your boobs. That is all. Maybe your ass too sometimes. And sure, there are the rare exceptions of boys who are looking at your boobs, ass, and legs. But for the most part the boys are just looking at your boobs and do not care about how flat your stomach is or if you have a little bit of cellulite.
6. Always have an exercise regiment. Find something you love. But don’t do it for results, do it because it makes you feel good. All the things they say about exercise are true. It fights depression. It makes your skin look better. On and on. For me, it makes me feel more powerful and vital. I just feel better about my body when I am exercising and that translates to an improved vibe, etc. One of my favorite sayings is “Use your Power” (amen Bedica). We have all sorts of different types of power associated with our body. The power of beauty, sexuality, birth, to name only a few. I think exercise helps me be more adept with every facet of my body’s power. Try on a regular basis to push your body past its limits. It will impress you and you will love it more.
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